I'm Not Superwoman, I'm Just Me

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Recently, my life has felt like a whirlwind.  I'm back in college, I'm taking 4 classes, running my acapella group, writing for my blog, seeking out public health internships and pursuing advocacy efforts. A year ago, I wouldn't have even dreamed to be where I am today.

Every three months, I get my Botox redone and like clockwork, the two weeks before bring my life to a complete and total stop. I missed classes, couldn't leave my room, and I felt like the whole world was crashing down on me. I was on the phone with my mom, crying, because I was worried that I was over-doing it. I had planned my schedule so carefully, I was trying to take care of myself, why was this happening to me?

It's not unusual to have ups and downs with a chronic illness. In fact, that's just our lives. In the past couple months, I've been more stable than I've been since my diagnosis. Yes, I've had some scares:
blacking out in class, false positive test result for a heart condition, new migraine symptoms, but overall I've been happy. So happy, that I actually am starting to look towards my future.
I haven't done that since before I got sick. I had dreams, but I quickly put them aside because if I couldn't even get to class, how would I be able to get a job? I had big dreams; I wanted to go into politics, I wanted to be a diplomat, maybe even work my way up to Secretary of State. The sicker I got, the less I held onto that dream. How could I ever hold public office with this dark secret following me around? I needed to be accountable, and in my eyes, then, I wasn't.

Periods of stability are amazing, but they can also be harrowing. This summer, I thought about the possibility of going to medical school after college, maybe going into public health, but either way, I am so passionate about raising awareness about invisible illnesses and migraines, why shouldn't I pursue it? Just as soon as I was beginning to get excited about my future, my emotions came crashing down to try and keep me in check. I don't know how I am going to be in a year, let alone 3 years. I need to pace myself, do things a step at a time. Slow down.  Just wait a minute. My life has built in caveats, disclaimers for everything that I do. No matter how big my dreams are, I'm hit with the reality that this is my life and I have to take my illness into account. Every once in a while, I feel like my old self. I have energy, I can run around from meetings to rehearsal, from events to homework without having to stop. These days are so few and far between, that when they do happen, I forget that I actually am sick. I feel capable. I feel alive. I don't feel like I'm just trying to get through the day, I feel strong and proud.

I should feel like that all the time. I should feel proud of myself for everything that I'm doing, but sometimes I forget. I can be a bit headstrong, which is great sometimes but when it comes to emotions it is definitely a flaw. Brain fog and headstrong opinions are two things that should never come into contact with migraine emotions, and when that happens, no matter what I do, I cannot convince myself that I am the strong and capable person that I am today. I know that it's not true, but there's something about my emotions when I migraine that pull me into this emotional vortex. I underestimate myself and my resilience all the time, which I shouldn't, seeing that I'm still alive and fighting 5 years after my life was completely up-ended.

Maybe this is just the ramblings of an intense week, and the aftereffects of a couple bad migraines and the botox, but for anyone who feels like they are not enough, like they aren't capable, or that they're useless because of their illness, you're not. To be as strong and resilient as we are, we have to have some off days. It's hard to be strong all the time, it's exhausting. It's okay to feel upset, but just remember that you are amazing. You are capable and you CAN do whatever you set your mind to. So do those power poses, listen to that song that makes you want to dance and sing, take that bubble bath. Even though it's difficult, embrace the moments that make you vulnerable. You'll only come out a stronger person, I know that from experience.

As always, have an amazing migraine-free week!


Interview with The Migraine Girl!

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Janet Geddis, aka The Migraine Girl, is one of my favorite migraine bloggers. Born and raised in Georgia, Janet has dealt with both chronic migraines as well as autoimmune disease for more than half her life. In 2011, Janet opened Avid Bookshop, which is a community-focused, independent bookstore located in Atlanta, Georgia. She writes for migraine.com and recently, her phenomenal blog was moved there in its entirety.  
As a migraine blogger, I have wanted to branch out to other bloggers whose writings have helped me through my own struggles. Reading Janet's blog helped to motivate me to start my own blog! Hopefully, this is just the first interview of many migraine and spoonie bloggers! 

What do you always carry with you in case of a migraine?
I always have my water bottle, a Zomig nasal injection device (for migraines I wake with or ones that approach very rapidly), a triptan pill (Imitrex or naratriptan at the moment), and some Tylenol (which my doctor has me take in conjunction with whatever triptan I take). 

What changes (if any) have you made to your daily life because of your migraines?
It's hard to enumerate the changes I've put in place over time. I've been living with migraine for 23 years (though I wasn't diagnosed until 8 years into my struggle). A handful of changes include keeping a very steady sleep schedule, drinking way more water than I used to, and learning to scan every new environment for potential triggers. For instance, when I go to a restaurant, I am careful not to stand too close in line behind a woman with perfume on, and I know not to sit under the ceiling fan (as it will cause a strobe effect if the overhead light is behind it), and I avoid really loud places. Every new place I encounter, I'm on the lookout for potential triggers. 

How did you start blogging about living with migraines? 
My blog started as an anonymous outlet for me about eleven years ago, and in 2010 I was the first contributor to join migraine.com, which was about to launch at the time. 

What is one stereotype about migraines that you wish people knew more about? 
I wish people understood that migraine is highly individualized. For instance, I'm not lying when I say I have a migraine but still remain at work, mostly functional. Though many of my attacks do leave me in bed in a dark room, there are others that allow me to maintain a somewhat normal semblance of life. And just as migraine changes in me from attack to attack, it changes from person to person.

When you’re recovering from a migraine, what are your go to foods?
 I usually crave salty foods high in carbs. Lately, any kind of potato-based snack has been what I go for as I begin to recover: tater tots, McDonald's fries, and even gnocchi!

What’s the best advice that anyone has given you?
Though I can't remember the eloquent way this advice was put to me, I know it was something about how I need to be less hard on myself and focus on all the amazing things I have done in spite of (and because of!) migraine instead of focusing on all that the disease has stolen from my life.

What are you excited about this year

 I am the very proud owner/founder of Avid Bookshop, a community-based independent bookstore here in Athens, GA. This fall, we will not only celebrate our fifth birthday at our original location but will also be opening a second location of the store. This is a huge feat, and I'm so excited. To be able to do this at all is pretty thrilling, but to have done it despite chronic migraine is really quite amazing to me. Thank goodness for my very supportive friends and family and my absolutely incredible team of booksellers at Avid--thanks to them and our loyal customers, my bookshop business is expanding year by year and I couldn't be happier.  

Thank you so much Janet, for letting me interview you! I wish you the best with your second location and with your journey! 

If you loved this interview, follow Janet on social media! Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and her blog on migraine.com!

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As always, have a lovely, migraine-free week! 


In the Company of Others

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Hi everyone! This year, I participated in In The Company of Others, an orientation program that shares experiences from college students to incoming freshman. As I have a not so typical freshman year story, I figured that I should do it and share my experiences. After a week of writing and rewriting our scripts, we performed them. Here's my performance. I will put the text below so you can read it as well. Hope you all enjoy!

Hi, I’m Ellie and I’m a sophomore.
When I first think of February 8th, 2016, my mind goes to laughing with my best friend while watching Hannah Montana at 4 o’clock in the morning. It seems so normal until you take a step back and look around at our environment. We’re in a hospital ER room, with white walls and fluorescent lights waiting to find out whether I had a blood clot in my arm or not. This was 4 days after I had been in the ER for pain and swelling in my arm and was sent home with a wrong diagnosis and a dismissal because I was “too young” to get a clot. Watching TV with my friend, I forgot about the IV digging into my vein, or of the potential consequences of the test results that I was waiting on, or even the fact that my parents were frantically trying to find a red-eye from LA to anywhere close to Hartford so they could come and make sure that I was still alive and breathing when my dad landed 8 hours later. Watching this TV show from my childhood about living a double life, I realized that I also live a double life, not as glamorous as Miley’s, however. I wear two masks; that of a healthy college student, and that of someone living with a chronic illness- constantly sick and fatigued.
February 4th, I was taking notes in my social psychology class and suddenly got this intense burning pain in my right arm. I figured that it was just from fervishly writing, and there was only about 15 minutes left and I could probably tough it out. The pain got worse and worse, and finally I was able to go back to my dorm and call my parents. I called my doctor at Yale, because Davison couldn’t see me until 3 hours later, and I feared that I had a blood clot. See, I’m at risk for blood clots because I take birth control to manage my hormones for my menstrual and non-menstrual migraines. However, when I went to the ER, they blew me off. I told them my medical history and that I knew I was at risk of clotting. Then, I was lead to a room for 2 ½ hours, alone while the pain migrated from my right upper arm to my hand, making the area around my thumb blue and swollen. I could barely touch my thumb to my index finger. There was no one at the nurse’s station, and when the doctor finally came in, he dismissed my symptoms. I was too young to get a clot, it definitely wasn’t a clot, my hand definitely wasn’t swollen, but they might do an ultrasound “just to make me feel better.” At this point, I had been there for 3 ½ hours alone, I was tired and I didn’t know what was going on. So they discharged me with a wrong diagnosis that they all knew was wrong. 4 days later, I was brushing my teeth, about to go to bed when I feel a shooting pain in my hand. I knew that the clot was back and much worse than before. When I called PSAFE, I told them to call an ambulance. I didn’t want to walk in and be disregarded again. However, the ER doctor saw the note from that Thursday and refused to do any tests. I had to threaten to go to another hospital because they said that I would have to wait 5 hours to get an ultrasound and that they wouldn’t run any other tests. After an hour of arguing, phone calls and pleading, they finally gave me a CT angiogram with dye, showing that I did in fact have a clot in the right brachial vein of my arm. The doctor apologized, saying that she was wrong to dismiss my symptoms and that she was inspired by how well I advocated for myself. Do you know how common it is for women to get clots blood on birth control? 3%. 3% of women develop clots, and I just so happened to be in that 3%.
5 years ago I was diagnosed with chronic, intractable migraines. Chronic meaning that I had more than 15 headache days per month and intractable meaning that they couldn’t be stopped by medication. Migraines, contrary to popular belief, are not “just headaches.” They’re a complex neurological condition that has many symptoms triggered by various factors. For me, my worst triggers are bright lights, high sounds, vibrations, gluten, soy and anything with tyramine, which is most commonly found in aged cheeses and red wine. Which sucks because everyone likes cheese and wine.
Now, Everyone memorizes different things about their lives, whether it’s lyrics from their favorite song, their favorite poem or something else that they enjoy and hold onto. For me, it’s my medical history. I can give you the names of all 10 of my doctors, and yes you heard that right. I have 10 separate doctors who oversee my medical life and their office addresses, and that’s not even including the ones who gave up on me because my case was “too difficult”. I can give you my entire medical history in under 5 minutes because I’ve gotten used to fast intake meetings with doctors who did not bother to read the information in my charts, whether they’re at an ER or a doctor’s office. I can tell you every medication that I take and have ever taken, including dosages. Today, the number of pills I take per day is 7. A couple months ago, I was taking 12 a day. This doesn’t include my abortive medications either, that I take when I have a migraine. The funniest part of my medical life is that if you put my file in a nursing home and just changed my age, no one would question it! That’s because I am the youngest person in the US to have ever been put on an anti-Alzheimer’s drug for migraines, and up until 3 weeks ago I was also on a blood thinner. I also take Centrum Silver daily vitamins. My friends joke that I am a Jewish grandma though, because I love naps and am always prepared for everything. I always have snacks, aleve, lipstick, band-aids and usually whatever else is needed at that time.

But 4 words have come to typify my life: “But You Don’t Look Sick.” I don’t look sick because I don’t tell others how I feel all the time. I use makeup to cover up the bags under my eyes, and balance my skintone because if you saw how pasty white bordering on green my face is when I’m feeling badly, you’d ask me if I was okay. And that’s just the thing. I am okay. I’m okay until I’m not. I can function decently well with a pain level of 4 out of 10, but I’ve learned how to fake it and to hide my fatigue, memory and word finding issues. You don’t what it’s like to lose control of your body until you can’t control it anymore. I’ll be in class, taking notes and listening, when suddenly I just get this feeling. I get really tired, like the kind of tired that you get after pulling two all nighters in row. I start to feel my body go weak, as if I can’t support my own weight. It suddenly becomes hard to find words, let alone even put together coherent sentences, making communicating what I’m going through much more difficult. I start feeling like I’m going to faint. Add together those feelings with intense nausea and dizziness, with a serving of pounding, intense pain, and that’s my typical migraine.

I’m not sure if it’s good or bad that I’ve gotten so good at hiding my symptoms. Yeah, I can get to more classes and appear like I’m a functioning human being, but at what cost? In the chronic illness community, there is a term called “spoon theory”, and it’s used to explain why we become so easily fatigued.
 I’m tired all the time, even everyday actions like taking a shower become something that takes monumental effort. In a day, there are certain things that most people do, like showering, doing dishes, getting dressed and going to classes. Spoon theory explains that each activity uses up a certain amount of spoons, of which you only have a certain number per day, which I’ll say is about 10. There will be some days where 10 spoons will be enough, but other days when you come up short and can’t do certain activities because you don’t have enough spoons left. See, it became necessary to create a theory in order to talk to non-ill people about our illnesses. That’s because people don’t like hearing about invisible issues. In their eyes, I don’t look sick, therefore I can do everything that an able-bodied person can. There’s a certain shame that’s associated with having an illness, be it mental or medical. I used to be scared to tell people about my migraines, because I thought that they would not want to be my friend if they found out this deep dark alternate person that I become when I have a migraine. It’s true though, I do have a different persona when I migraine. One of my exes called it “Ellie’s world is ending” attitude because everything becomes extremely negative and depressing and because of the pain I can’t think or rationalize anything. I get stuck in these anxious spirals that just add onto the physical pain that I already experience. I don’t usually let anyone see me. Even my family rarely sees me during the worst parts of a migraine. When I’m starting new relationships, I don’t trust easily. I may tell the person about my migraines, but just the bare minimum. Not the fact that I spent my junior and senior years of high school visiting the Outpatient Pain Center at Ceders-Sinai 3-4 times a week, instead of being in class. I don’t tell them that I lost almost all physical ability for almost two years, that even washing the dishes was enough to force me to get back into bed for 4 hours just to recover and be able to sit up again. I don’t tell them about the nights that I can’t sleep and how I cry at 2 o’clock in the morning because sometimes, dealing with this illness is too much to handle. I often feel like I’m burdening others if I ever need help, and this includes romantic partners, and no matter how much that they try and assure me that they want to help, it’s hard to believe them. I’ve been in too many situations where their actions don’t match up to their words. See, I’m difficult. High-maintenance. I have numerous food allergies making it difficult to eat out sometimes. I used to not be able to go to the movie theatre because the sound and lights would trigger migraines for me. I can’t keep all of the plans that I make, because I never know when I’ll be incapacitated. I live in the unknown. It’s a disturbing place for some people, but recently I began to appreciate it because that is my normal. Every morning starts with the question of, “Can I get out of bed this morning?” or am I in too much pain to move. I live my life with contingency plans carefully thought out, so when something happens, I already have a plan of action and can deal with it. Living with an invisible, chronic illness isn’t fun. But not having people to talk about it with makes it so much worse. It is already an isolating, solitary experience. So, if someone you know who has an invisible and/or chronic illness, I’m asking that you listen to them a little bit more carefully and try to see it through their eyes. The people that have done that for me are some of the most important people in my life, and they have helped me be able to actually live my life instead of living in fear of my migraines.  Thank you.